Remember how I planned to
Get My Sh!t Together Before I'm 30? So far I have achieved three of the seven goals:
1. I got a raise in February, which allowed me to...
2. ...move out of my parents' house.
And my latest accomplishment?
6. I stopped chewing on my fingers. No, really! I think I've really done it this time. I've tried many
different methods, but this last one has finally stuck. It took a little analysis of why and when I was doing it.
No, it wasn't stress, which is what people initially assume (
less stress after moving out on my own?). I apparently had this habit of grooming my nails with my teeth, so if there was a rough spot, or a bur, or a speck of dirt, there went the fingers into the mouth to fix it. That was a gateway activity to chewing on the nail and the area around it, then "grooming" the other nails in a similar fashion, and before you know it, my nails were gone and I'd ingested approximately 2,539,584,680 microbacteria.
In the post linked above, I mentioned how I tried putting a green sticky note on my computer screen to catch my eye and make me aware that I most likely had a finger in my mouth at that time. Being consciously aware of it helped, but only mildly, because after all, I
did want to fix that bur.
My previous record was four weeks, I believe last year sometime, when I was using aversion therapy. When I caught myself chewing my fingers, I'd slap my hand. I also tried using an emery board to smooth the nail. I noticed that if the nail was smooth, I didn't feel compelled to "groom" it with my teeth. That worked until I decided I was cured and started allowing "just a little," "just this one time" for little things, without the slap. I also didn't carry an emery board or nail file with me, so that tactic was only mildly successful.
Building on that knowledge, when I was on vacation last month I was talking about this with Laurie, who had been kind enough to yell at me when I was caught chewing my fingers. She said sometimes if she doesn't have a nail file handy, she'll rub her nails on jeans as a temporary fix. So I tried that.
And I haven't chewed my fingers now in over a month.
Does rubbing the nail on jeans really work? Sometimes. But even if not, it has a placebo effect: It tricks my brain into believing I'm fixing the problem (the bur or rough spot), and it requires me to remove my fingers far from my mouth to do it -- with the "slap" method, my hands would still be up near my face, ready to find their way back amongst the dental area. And once the nails were long enough, I could clean out dirt using the other nails, so there went that problem too.
Now I feel no compulsion to groom the fingers with my teeth at all. I don't even look at them nearly as often, and when I do, there is no impulse to chew on them. And ironically,
that has relieved some stress. Yes that's right: Chewing fingernails was a stressful activity.
As for the other GMSTB30 goals, I did leave a space in my apartment's living room for
4. a drawing desk, but until I'm completely unpacked I don't yet have room for it (yeah yeah, excuses excuses). Once that is in place, I will focus on
3. working on my comic strip every day. That should be easier during
2009: The Year of the Hiatus.
My gigs in 2008 have been fun, but time-consuming as usual. I'm scheduled through November, then I'm taking a year off from theatre and music (
so he says) so I can have my evenings and weekends back. Aside from getting some employment- and career-related things in order, 2009 also intends to be The Year of the Roller Coaster, with brief trips to some new amusement parks and a couple old favorites. Stu is on a bit of a coaster embargo at the moment, on account of just moving to a new house and having a child plus another on the way, but through special circumstances we're darting over to
Waldameer tonight after work to ride Ravine Flyer II, which holds the distinction of being the only wooden coaster in
my top 10.
Well, this post is far longer than I intended, so I'll stop now. Maybe in 2009 I'll finish the Vegas and NYC journals too.